(Written
by Sheila Gail Landgraf)
On the
long, long journey to and from Israel's funeral, Joseph’s brother’s probably had a lot of time to think about what would happen to them in “life after father.”
Odd as this sounds; these facts reminded me of Cinderella!
I recently watched a modern-day version of the "Cinderella" story. It was very well done and the production really impressed me. I loved the way the whole story emphasized the fact that Cinderella learned how to be herself and not try to impress others with false and superficial ways. She learned not to be a people-pleaser and to require those who loved her to accept her for the beautiful person that she really was.
In this particular version of the old fairy tale, I loved how they added so many extra little details about Cinderella's life, including her thoughts. She
too had come to a sad time in her life, just like Joseph in our story today. They both had lost the father they deeply loved. Cinderella's father's death was devastating to her. It changed her world completely. It was so similar to Joseph's story in that now there was a whole new set of circumstances for her to live through and many changed relationships that she must now deal with. These circumstances were not easy. She bravely faced the hard changes with love and courage. She would miss her father so much! Nothing would ever be the same again. I could not
help but think of Joseph.
Because
they had stayed with their father and done everything the way he wanted basically so they could live underneath his blessings, Joseph’s
brothers were now were living at the mercy of the hand of Joseph. They were foreigners and strangers, living in
a foreign land, much like Cinderella’s step-sisters when they had come to live in Cinderella's father's home. They really had no right to anything in Egypt now, but because of their relation to Joseph, they had come into a rich and rewarding life in that land. They probably appreciated this about as much as Cinderella's step-sisters. Until Israel's death they took all of this for granted and simply thought they were entitled, but they surely did not want anything to happen to make them lose the blessings they had gained.
Joseph’s
brothers depended on Joseph’s heavily blessed provision from God to survive. Joseph had shared all he owned freely with them, holding back nothing. They couldn’t take it all from him like
Cinderella’s step family did, because Joseph had grown very powerful in
the land; but they needed some type of reassurance that Joseph would always continue providing. They were very afraid of losing this easily gained good fortune that they had not worked a day in their lives for.
They
knew Joseph had said long ago that they were forgiven, and he had never shown signs
of holding a grudge against them for the way they had wronged him, but now; since Israel had died, they wondered if Joseph would become bitter
and remember how they had treated him.
Would he realize how different life could have been and might still be if none of their terrible evil deeds had ever happened and he had grown up in the land of Canaan
knowing the constant love of his father and his other relatives?
Maybe they had even seen Joseph showing his two Egyptian sons the special
places associated with his childhood days in the land of his birth during the time of Jacob’s funeral. Perhaps
they had seen a longing in Joseph's eyes that frightened them as he thought of “what could have been?”
The
weaker brothers became very afraid of their grieving brother, and they decided
to take action based upon their fears. They
all got together and sent word to Joseph asking him to consider that their father
had requested before he died that Joseph forgive the wrongs they had committed
against him. They knew Joseph would never question his father's last wishes.
When
Joseph received this message, he sat down and wept.
At this point in our story, one cannot help but think of the shortest
verse of the bible; that verse of just two little words: “Jesus wept.”
Joseph must have suffered a sadness similar to the sadness that Jesus felt as he looked upon those that he loved, yet he knew they had betrayed him in their weakness and in their humanity. He loved them so much; yet they had hurt Him. They had broken his heart.
The stinging tears of Joseph might have also been over a lot of the things he had lost; his father, the
goodness of faithful brothers growing up, his home, the wasted years he had spent in prison
for false acquisitions, the fact that his own sons did not really know the
people that were his ancestors. So much must have come to mind at the time and many things such as this must have given Joseph great sadness and he wept.
As he wept, he must have prayed.
Can’t you imagine Joseph talking to God as he
was weeping and asking Him how all of this could be? I’m sure his prayers were full of emotions
and questions. Even in his questions, it seems he trusted God to provide whatever answers he needed. He did not lean on his own understanding. He waited on God to guide him.
At some point he came to himself and felt the peace of God within. God must have spoken to him; because it is
evident in the way he once again handled the very underhanded treatment of his
brothers. I say “underhanded” because it
is clear that the brothers were acting out of fear and not really telling the truth.
Of course Joseph’s father had wanted him to
forgive his brothers, and Israel must have known in his heart that Joseph had already done this
long ago. Joseph had spent many days
with Israel as he lay suffering and dying and if Israel had been concerned
about how Joseph was going to treat his brothers he would have spoken directly to Joseph at that time,
not his brothers. Anyone reading Jacob’s
last words to his sons would have realized this. The brothers were simply fearful of Joseph’s
power, and they were very full of their own terrible guilt. They had carried it around with them unconfessed for so many years, and now they simply could not let it go. It had become a part of them.
Perhaps
many of Joseph’s tears fell simply from the fact that he knew his brother’s own
sins would always keep him from having a proper brotherly relationship with them, no matter what
Joseph did to reassure them or mend the past. Even if one party forgives, if the other party can't let go of their sin and move ahead, there is a block on the growth of the relationship and it will never mature and grow into what was originally intended.
After
he composed himself Joseph sent for his brothers.
Can’t you see them coming before him
trembling in fear, almost as much as that first day when they found out who he really was as he had revealed his true identity to them years ago in Egypt?
They came and threw themselves at Joseph’s
feet.
“We are your slaves!” they said to him.
I’m sure a very old vision from the dreams of a
young shepherd boy in a brightly colored coat must have flashed through Joseph’s mind when this happened. Joseph had
seen his dream from God come true several times now. His brothers were bowing down to him, just as
he had dreamed when he was a boy and they had made fun of him. This flash-back to the past and remembering the dream probably also reminded Joseph that God was in the
circumstances. All of the details leading up to that moment of the dream coming true had been in God's control all along.
And
Joseph’s heart turned to the place of the peace of His Great God.
“Don’t be afraid” he said to them, “Am I in
the place of God?”
In
other words, Joseph knew the only way judgment should ever be given was from the
hand of God. He knew in his heart he
must totally forgive his brothers, no matter how hard it was for him in the
flesh. Joseph decided right then and
there the proof of that old, old scripture so often repeated from Romans 12:19
(written way after the days of Joseph) “Do not take revenge, my dear friends,
but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I
will repay,” says the Lord.”
True forgiveness never involves revenge or judgement. Only God may
judge and only God can declare people guilty.
Joseph got that. He realized that God's perspective was the only true perspective. In spite of all
they had done to him, and in spite of the fact that most likely they were again
telling him a lie, Joseph forgave his brothers; completely and unconditionally, without
restitution or repayment.
He did
not overlook what they had done. He
agreed with their confession of their wrong.
They confronted one another and spoke of the facts together.
They did not sweep everything under the rug, but they talked the matter
out and they came once again to the final conclusion that Joseph would overlook and
forgive the wrongs that they had committed against him.
The
forgiveness didn’t come because the brothers had fallen on their faces and
begged, or because they had admitted their wrong and apologized. Joseph wasn’t stupid. He could clearly see this wasn’t a sincere
apology, but only one brought in fear. Had
they not been afraid of the power that Joseph held over them, would they have even bothered? Chances are slim to none. Maybe some of them; but not all of them. Joseph knew this but Joseph’s eyes were not
on the humans who stood before him.
Joseph’s eyes were right where they had always been and right where they
would always stay; fixed on God.
Based
on the spirit Joseph gained from listening to God, emptying his heart to Him
and being obedient to God’s every word, Joseph explained his actions to his
surprised and grateful brothers. Joseph
recognized in his life what so many selfish thinkers miss:
“You intended
to harm me, but God intended it for good, to accomplish what is now being done,
the saving of many lives!”
Had all of the circumstances of Joseph's life not happened the way they did the people of Egypt as well as the people of Israel would have starved to death. God could have changed this in any way He chose to do so, but He decided to work through Joseph.
God had
shown Joseph the big picture. Only God
can do this, because only God sees the big picture. This is because He is outside of time and we
are inside of time. We have tunnel
vision; He has eternal vision. His
perspective is accurate, and ours is often shortsighted. We do well to let God’s glasses do the
looking for us in matters that are very important, such as this one was to
Joseph.
For Joseph this was a moment of truth. It was the realization of the culmination of all of his life's purpose. He had matured so much in his walk with God that he didn't need dreams anymore. Joseph had eyes to see. God had opened them and he understood so far beyond the others living around him. Things
like this happen when your eyes are focused in the right place instead of worshiping yourself and the things of the world. Joseph saw a glimpse, in these circumstances,
of what Jesus saw on the cross. He saw
the end of the story; the one where God brings all bad circumstances around to work
together for good. Joseph had held on
through it all and now he possessed within himself the greatest power and
capacity that is possible from the human heart, that of unconditional love and forgiveness.
And so
he told his brothers not to be afraid, that he would continue to bless them
and provide for them. As so often
happens in this world, a whole newly forming nation was blessed from the goodness of
one man’s heart toward God.
The
people living in that day have long left the earth and gone into eternity, but
if you could go back in time and talk to anyone from that day who lived in
close proximity to this band of foreign brothers, they would tell you that Joseph
was a lot like Cinderella. He was one
who always showed courage and kindness.
So my
friends, the story of Joseph as well as the long walk through the Book of Genesis in this study is drawing to a close. We will have one more lesson with a summary,
but I will simply ask you every time you think of Joseph to remember Cinderella’s
mother’s words to her; “be kind and have courage and you will do well.” Joseph did!
True kindness and courage can only come from God.